Sometimes "Thank You" is the correct answer.
As a related aside, Kiddo has a friend from HS in the Band who indeed has expressed some dissatisfaction with the arrangements or lack thereof. Anecdotal at best but it's one data point that it's not only parents expressing "disappointment."
Seeing how my buddy and I attended the 1982 Sugar Bowl on a lark...literally at 10 PM on New Years Eve said "let's go to the game"...and then drove from Athens to New Orleans overnight...arrived around 10 AM, purchased two tix on Bourbon Street, and partied, went to the game, and then turned around for the drive back...not a dissimilar itinerary from the Pinstripe bowl in a couple of days.
Our trip was a flash but certainly fun. The same can be for the Band this time too if you just embrace the moment.