Yeah, situations like Miller's and the ones you mentioned are tricky. Some will take the tone where they will excuse the actions because they didn't break the law (Alabama is 100% using this tactic with Miller to keep him on the court). Others will call him a murderer and act like he was the one that pulled the trigger and should have his life ruined (chanting "lock him up" everytime he touches the ball is way overboard).
As with most things the truth is always somewhere in the middle. Bama did him no favors by not punishing him in any way in my opinion because the court of public opinion is clearly against him.
Pretty clear that Bama and Oats thought it would go away without anyone noticing. An immediate suspension while waiting for the the cops to investigate would have sent a message that they cared at least a little and it was early enough in the season that the impact on wins and losses would have been minimal.
Pure speculation, but I bet Miller has a history of not separating himself from the wrong crowd, making the whole argument of "wrong place, wrong time" even more laughable. The youth will mock me, but there is truth to the "nothing good happens after 10, Midnight, whatever."
As noted above, this gives me, and I bet a lot of others, more reason to cheer against them.