Did all those other schools who have offered him, only do so because they really thought he would commit if they offered?To really cut to the chase on this, they should have asked him if he would have committed if Ben offered.
I don't know what the "correct" answer is. And I'm sure that a coaches personal "style" on that part of it differs somewhat. I get the argument for not offering just to offer.
But at the end of the day, all fans/regular folks can see is if the offer is listed there or not. You either offered or you didn't.
There's no column in the table for "tried really hard" or "had great early conversations".