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Out of all the sporting events I have ever been to, I witnessed a first at the game last night.

The group in front of me brought their baby with them to the game. Always happens at all games. She was cute she had on a Gopher cheerleader outfit on. Everything was fine until the baby starts crying. My thoughts are it is too loud or maybe the baby is hungry.

Well I assumed they were going to get a bottle out which they had with them. NOPE the mom holds the baby in her lap throws a towel over the baby and starts adjusting her shirt to allow for breast feeding. Couldnt hide the fact of this as she was right on the aisle.

A lady came walking down the stairs and looked over at her and nearly threw out her neck doing a double take. My wife and I were so uncomfortable with this.

Are we wrong in feeling weird about this??
 

I have absolutely no problem with this. It sounds like the mother had a towel/blanket over her baby, so it's not a big deal. The baby needs food- she doesn't eat nachos.
 

Why were you uncomfortable? It may have been pretty out in the open, but it's possible to watch the game without noticing what's going on in seats in front of you. I just don't understand this stigma we have in this country about breastfeeding. It's natural and it's good for the baby. Perhaps I'm in the minority here, but I say hats off to the mom for being comfortable enough to do it.
 

god forbid she fed her baby! THE HORROR!

you sound like a class A douche bag.
 



I'm only uncomfortble in such situations because I really want a better look and I know it's wrong to feel that way.
 

I dunno, if she had planned ahead she would have brought a bottle (full of breast milk). Best of both worlds - baby gets all the benefits of breast milk - and nobody's weirded out/uncomfortable. I can completely understand how this would be out of place at a football game.
 

I guess i am not seeing what the problem is, its natural, they were covered up, and the baby shut up lol. i would much rather see boobs + baby rather than no boobs + crying, screaming baby...
 

i know they were covered up but i was just sayin lol.
 



Beats the hell out of listening to crying. Do you have kids? A person loses a lot of squeamishness having been through that.
 


obviously you do not have kids or if you do, it was a long long time ago.
There is absolutely NO PROBLEM with this. It is simple biology. Now, if you abstain from sex because it makes you feel "uncomfortable," well, then, I guess I can see how this would make you uncomfortable. Otherwise, get over it.
 




You don't change a diaper in the aisle, you shouldn't breast feed there either.
 

They had breast milk in a bottle. The husband said to her, do you want me to feed her. And she said no I got it. So they did plan ahead and yet went ahead with it.
 


Balancing Act

As a father of two kids who were nursed by Mom, I've come to believe it's okay with discretion.

Sounds like discretion was indeed used in this case, e.g., blanket.

As for the bottle, if the goal indeed was to quiet the child, breastfeeding is more effective than just providing the bottle. Kind of a "contact sport" type of thing...:p

Agree on the changing diaper note from above. That's definitely for the changing table in the restroom.

Go Gophers! Beat the Bears!
 

Breastfeeding is what humans have been doing for millions of years. When formula was invented, it was considered the scientific way of feeding children, and breastfeeding was seen as low class. When people discovered that breastfeeding was actually better for children, it became reversed.

At the very least, it's perfectly legal. It's not remotely comparable to changing a diaper in the stands.
 

Again, clearly you are not a parent. When a woman goes too long without breast-feeding, she becomes overfull (engorged I think is the term) and is physically uncomfortable and will likely start to leak milk. But, I guess that is a small price to pay for preserving some dude's delicate sensitivities.

sheesh.
 

magpie said:
Yeah, that's inappropriate in my book.
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How old are you? 12? 13?

What is the problem here? Is the female breast too much for you to handle? Seriously, I'd bet good money that magpie and the OP are young childless men who think boobs exist exclusively for ogling and groping. Especially since the woman covered up with a blanket, I don't see the problem.

And Schnoodler, very nice. Even my wife just got a nice chuckle out of that line.
 


Are we wrong in feeling weird about this??

It is absurd to bring an infant to an event such as this especially at the time of day it was. Breast feeding in public if done properly is fine. I have five children and would have secured a baby sister or watched on TV. Sorry, infants don't go well with high energy public events like this one especially at night.
 

goldygoon said:
Are we wrong in feeling weird about this??
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Not going to say you're wrong for feeling this way but glad that you didn't make an issue of it with the parents and/or complain to event staff. From your account, mom shielded the nursing from the general public.

BTW, Minnesota law provides "A mother may breast-feed in any location, public or private, where the mother and child are otherwise authorized to be, irrespective of whether the nipple of the mother's breast is uncovered during or incidental to the breast-feeding." (Minn. Stat. § 145.905)

It's also a matter of priorities. How could you tear your eyes away from what was going on on the field and whether Weber was checking off his other receivers or not? A true fan must be vigilant for on-field observations at all times. :cool:
 


Insults are not required. The OP asked for opinions, and I gave mine, same as everyone else. He said he was uncomfortable, as would I be. I don't care if your opinions are opposing, what the law is, etc. That does not effect my comfort level. It's those of you with the return banter who are acting far more immaturely. In my opinion a child at breast-feeding age should not be at a game anyway, and breast-feeding in front of other children certainly puts their parents in a potentially uncomfortable situation. Flatulence is legal, natural, etc too -- but I don't here anyone saying they support it in crowded areas. ;)
 

Most people I know would breastfeed in that situation. Most mothers probably wouldn't want to bring in breast pumping equipment. Some mothers need to pump more then others. My wife had twins, lost one along the way, and was required to pump between every feeding for a few months. It's natural, it's part of life and most importantly it's great for both the baby and the mother. I don't mind if they don't use a blanket, but a blanket is quite polite and there should be no questioning that situation.

Questioning whether it's too loud or too much sensory overload for a baby to attend a game is a parental situation. We've very restrictive so my daughter is two and hasn't been there, she won't enjoy it and I won't enjoy it. Many parents bring babies before they get too old and restless and that's their call.
 

GoldInDirt said:
Questioning whether it's too loud or too much sensory overload for a baby to attend a game is a parental situation. We've very restrictive so my daughter is two and hasn't been there, she won't enjoy it and I won't enjoy it. Many parents bring babies before they get too old and restless and that's their call.
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Exactly. Let the acting people decide.
 

Breast feeding is exactly as natural as walking around stark naked, and exactly as appropriate at a football game.

Bringing a baby to a game is foolish to begin with. They wont enjoy, remember, or understand it.
 

It's true that an infant isn't going to get anything out of going to a game, but that's another issue entirely. Breastfeeding isn't by any honest measure like "running around stark naked". Those who feel uncomfortable around it are going to have to find a way to cope with it.
 


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