That’s just making excuses for someone to be able to use a hateful word and perpetuates hatred and division. People need to be better than that.
White America called black people the N-word for multiple centuries (to go along with many other despicable cultural "traditions") and unfortunately the word is still used far too regularly in the South. So now you think we (white people) are in a position to tell them what they can and cannot say to each other? Get serious.