I can see why there is a generation abyss between 30 and 50 at the U. I went there from 87-92, lived off campus with 6 other guys only one besides myself graduated. We enjoyed our life then but the U wasn't a great school to go to, we would spend weekends with friends in Mankato or St. Cloud because the atmosphere was better, I even commuted down to Mankato early on Fridays to make pick up basketball games there, because the U just wasn't a place you spent anymore time at than absolutely necessary. This was at the dawn of the email and computer age so imagine a sprawling campus where you had to stand in line for hours to register for classes only to get to the head of the line and find out your first and second choices were full and now try to furious flip through a class list the size of a small phone directory to figure out what to do next to avoid spending another year waiting to get a prereq to move on to the next prereq. Coffman stunk, the bridge stunk so bad inside that people would walk on the outside even on the coldest days of the winter. The computer science building and a few medical buildings were the only ones with air conditioning. The Civil Engineering building was the only building that held engineering classes that didn't feel like a world war II bunker. The U had just figured out that computers were not just a fad and added a computer science 4 year degree, when I enrolled they didn't have one and kids had to go to Mankato to get a 4 year Csci degree. In the 5 years I was there I can't remember a single building being renovated or improved, shut down for repair when they were dangerously falling apart yes, but not renovated. Several of my roommates and I had season tickets to Basketball, we all got hooked young on the Willie Burton era and enjoyed most of Clem's tenure as coach. That was probably the most engaged we ever got in campus life. Like everyone else we all had a favorite college football team that was not Minnesota because the U was so bad it was a joke.
Long story short I felt like I pulled my education out of the U of M despite their lack of help. The saving grace for me was a good internship program that landed me a job after I graduated. When it came time for my kids to go to school I discouraged the U because I wanted them to go somewhere where they didn't have to fight the school they were at to get an education. I don't think that is the way the U of M is now, but I couldn't ignore my personal experience. Although I am an Alum, and have season tickets for football, I don't feel any more connected to the U than my friend who has seats next to me that graduated from Augsburg. I'll keep the tickets based on enjoying the experience, not based on loyalty to my alma mater.
You summed up my college experience to a large degree. The only difference is that I remained on campus during the weekends my first two years and it was pretty much a ghost town. In addition, you had to search hard to find a party if you were not in a frat or part of the hockey team, fb team, etc., which I wasn't. It was this lack of a collegiate community that turned off my friends that did transfer.
You raise another interesting point about not wanting your kids to go to the U. When my old college buddies and I went back together in Minneapolis several years ago for the Cal v. MN game, we were having drinks on Friday night at Brit's Pub. My one college buddy asked me if I would want my kids to go the U. I really had to think about it considering how the U was during my time and how difficult it was to get the classes you wanted, no student support and graduating in a timely manner was extremely difficult. However, even a few years ago I noticed dramatic positive changes at the U and my family members who graduated from the U after I did, did not have the same experience that I did. It is clear that the U is not the commuter campus it once was, admissions standards have dramatically gone up, and the on campus stadium certainly brings a college feel to campus. In light of these positive changes, I did tell my friend that I would not be opposed to my kids going to the U. In fact, my 10 year old daughter has put the U on her list of colleges along with UCLA and UC Berkeley.
As has been mentioned before, we have lost a lot of alumni due to the U poor treatment of students and athletics during the 70's, 80's and 90's. Even after I graduated, I did not even bother to follow Gopher fb because it was so bad and I did not feel like I had any real connection to the U, despite getting my degree there. It wasn't until Mason came in and started winning that I became reengaged with the U and have since become a strong supporter of the school. I do think that more alumni will become reengaged with the school if we have a winning program, but it does take alumni support, i.e. financial support, to have a winning program. It is good to see new enthusiasm for the fb program, I am just concerned that this year could really be a blow to the enthusiasm that last year created going into this year. If the fb team fizzles out from here on out, you are going to hear "The same old Gophers." There are going to be a lot of empty seats by the end of this season and certainly heading into next season.
Plus, even if the U starts off strong next season, many fans will sit on the sideline waiting for another implosion, further delaying the consistent and broad based alumni support the fb program needs to be successful and compete in big time college athletics.