First of all -- as I think you well understand, this is all just wild speculation by me, OK? I'm talking how *I* would feel. I haven't talked to Dunlap, Ford, or any Gophers player directly.
That said, IMO that's not at all the same situation, and so if it was me, my reaction wouldn't at all be the same.
i) Played in NM St, Illinois, Wisconsin, and we lost the Wisc game, giving "only" 3 games participation ---> "I got to play in 3 games this year, 2 against Big Ten teams, including our arch-rival ... it was an honor to even get on the field as a freshman, and I was happy to help, while getting to maintain my redshirt"
ii) Played in NM St, Illinois, Purdue, Wisconsin, and we won the Wisc game, giving 4 games participation, but unable to play in the bowl game ----> "I really wish coaches had not put me in the Purdue game, because my presence on the field quite obviously didn't matter in that game, we were going to blow them out either way. And a bowl game is a really special thing, that I wish I could get on the field for to celebrate the end of the season with my boys"
Sorry if that makes no sense to you or you want to say it is wrong. Go for it. That's how *I* would feel, in the two scenarios.